January 12, 2023
I saw a video recently where Duncan Trussel said that the biggest thing that helped him grow as a person was, every time he wanted to give someone advice, rather than give it he decided to take the advice himself. Instead of say, ‘Hey, maybe you need to work out more’ – he’d try and work out more himself.
I don’t think I’ve ever taken anyone’s advice unless it was the obvious solution to a problem, and I’m sure every time someone’s ever given me advice it made me resentful of the other person, so why should I give advice?
If anything we need to lead by example, and make sure that we’re intentional in improving ourselves, so rather than feel the need to give advice people might ask us willingly about our own processes.
There’s no reason to be negative or judgemental about another person. If I feel that I’m going to speak ill of someone, I’ll try to either analyze why I feel negatively of that person, or just not say anything at all and move on.
‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.’
None of us are perfect people, and for every reason we judge others, there’s probably a dozen reasons we ourselves should be judged.
When I was 17 I saw a sign in a preschool that read ‘Only speak kind words.’ This year I will try to only speak kind words about others and in general.
I’ll be honest, I’m so self conscious that I have trouble even starting things. This holds me back from most of my goals. There’s no growth without discomfort, and if things don’t turn out the way I expect them to, I’ll take it as a lesson and move on.